I got a Beautiful Girl

Unto us a child is born. The travail of an expectant mum is over. I cried. I screamed and I praised God for safe delivery. Only heaven can tell of the dramatic story in the delivery suite. The pain, the contraction, the yelling, the  I cannot do this anymore! So much for a expectant mum to bear. Am a P.O.P mate! Praise G.O.D. As I begin to meditate on God's goodness to me and my wife. As I found myself starring at my beautiful baby girl imagining and prophesying a  a great future, a flash of reality raced through my upturned face. How do i keep my baby girl on a straight righteous path in the midst of perversion generation?  A generation passionless about the things of God. An anything-goes generation. A generation where correction, family values and been removed from the book. Where multi-culturalism as replaced the very Christian foundation this great country was built upon.Where the media, peer pressure has undue effects on kids. Where kids are exposed and sexualised at a very young age. What about Magalauf? What about Sun, Sex and Suspicious Parent? The list is endless.

Never worry son, i said to myself . For all this i have Jesus. Proverb 2 came to mind. It says, my child,listen to what i say and remember what i command you. Listen carefully to wisdom,set your mind on understanding, cry out to wisdom, and beg for understanding, search for it like silver, and hunt for it like hidden treasure,then you will understand respect for the Lord.

I have made my own share of mistake and asking God to keep me straight. having a baby is a real game changer. Like i have to live it up, be responsible and trust God to  me be a daily good inspiration to not just my kids but kids around me.

My journey to fatherhood is not complete if i do not live by example. Lord help me.


Inspired by my Sweet baby girl
Bliss Rereloluwa.

ME, MY BABY GIRL AND PAGE 3 GIRLS

51051.81km across the Atlantic is where my existence resides now; and not without some social drama playing poker in my head. In few weeks to come, I will join the endless premier league of first time dada changing napkins, baby-sitting and reading bedtime stories. What a privilege?  What a 9 months of beautiful travail! God bless every mother out there.

Some said WTF! Others says its cool, harmless, wacky, demeaning, good old British fun, it objectifies women, exploitative, career opportunities, glories beauty or glamorize indecency. Waoh! So much for perspective on page 3 girls. Seriously, I dread the day my little baby grows up to ask me what page three girls is all about; and the answers that will best justify page three. Would she internalize or normalize the evil and creepy commercial concept behind page three? Pheew! So much for freedom in this part of the world.

Am I lustful, or shut my trap or just pretend my mind is all covered up with a surgical gloves to prevent the retrogressive tapes of page three among other stuffs I picked up on a daily basis roll in my head when I lay me in bed? I feel like the drama in my head is waging a holy war against best possible ways to internalize morals, view and celebrate women, What answer will best clear the doubts in my little girl’s mind. Well, I guess I have a fight in my hands and its now. Good enough, I have the word of God as my guide to show my girl the kingdom way to treat God’s beautifully and fearfully made creatures.

Common TheSun, we can do better than that. There is a kingdom way to treat young girls out there. It is time we switched off the gas metre of objectifying and commodifying those God treat as special.

PRAYER THOUGHT

Lord, help me to lead not only my girl but millions of boys and girl out there in the love and worshipful fear of God. Lord it is not easy with the kind of peer and media pressure these kids and myself faces on a secondly basis but by your grace I will do my best. I thank you in Jesus name. Amen.

Dedicated to my girl and millions out there

Me. My Child and Pornography

This is a difficult bit to write about. Difficult because it comes with coming clean, my wife doesn't even know i started blogging about my paternal and personal odyssey as a first-time dad. Growing up was great. Call it a dramatic cocktail of the good, the bad and ugly, i will say, you are on-point. Not perfect, but am sensible enough to thank God for the gift of a good parent. Dad loves education, fun ,less than average church-person and a heavy-duty disciplinarian but he believes in God. Mum is an epitome of compassion to a fault, had to stop education around age 10-15 yrs i suppose due to affordability and her mum's death yet developed herself skill-wise in fashion/model industry. She rubbed shoulders abit with the high and mighty. Dad did not. Mum was a more serious church-goer than dad, though she has a Muslim background. Don't blame her, blamed love. The ugly part was that their only son, heir apparent picked up porn some way some how. First contact with porn is still foggy but remember i did have friends we share porn and other explicit materials with. I picked up a porn video cassette one day from my dad's cupboard (oh! pls don't ask me how it got there), gulped it down. Mum caught me, was gon report me to dad and i knew i would rather kill myself than let her tell dad. Cuz i know the consequence. A high-voltage pranking till death! Unlike dad, she made me read Psalms 51 as a deal-broker.Then begin a life-long battle for my mind. God or porn? To watch or not to watch? Voice of the spirit or flesh? David or goliath?  Coming to JESUS means a change of attitude, and does not mean my porn past was gon be whisked away by some magical past. I have to work out my salvation with fear and trembling. I love JESUS and want to live for him, but the things i do not want to do that i do, and that i do not want to do, i do.

Why do i cry? Like Paul I have shed many tears in secret places. I screamed! I groaned!  I have cried Abba Father! i need help. I am daily fighting temptations, and the fighting the good fight of faith. The battle of and for my mind keeps me humble, i realize that this is WAR, check myself if am still in faith and reassures myself i have victory when i look up to JESUS, the author and finisher of my faith. By his grace, those days are over.That is why i have to make sure i close all avenue.

As i journey into fatherhood, i began to re-evaluate myself, my legacy, perspective and how to teach my sons/daughters about JESUS, and the negative impact porn/explicit imagery, the pressure friends, media will have on my kids. I discovered that the road to a fulfilled fatherhood is not complete until i have a Christ-loving, sin-loathing, blood-bought children mannered in the similitude of the palace, who can say this is evil and i have no part to play, kids who will inspire other kids to live for JESUS.

The good news is in the battle between David or goliath, we know how the story ends.I love happy ending.


Quick Prayer for All Kids/Youths/Man/Woman
As JESUS prayed for his disciples in John 17 from verse 11, saying Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name, the name you gave me,so that they may be as one as we are one.(12) while i was with them, i protected them,and kept them safe by the name you gave me. These i pray in JESUS mighty name for my kids and other kids facing peer pressure and media on-onslaught everyday, Amen

Please complete  and meditate on the rest of the verse.

Inspired by Passion to leave a Christ-like Legacy

The Scan that changed my Perspective

This is the scan that changed all. This is scan of my 12 weeks old baby. It sends a touch of reality and joy down my spine. As i sat and watch the scan operator move the instrument down my wife's tummy, i saw the baby leap and motion round about like he/she was in a playhouse .

Then begin a journey in my mind. What kind of father do i want to be? What would i inspire? Would i inspire greatness? Would i live by example? Would i bring out the best in he/she? Would i be soft or gentle? A father or friend? In a world where family values has been relegated to the back-seat and is almost non-existent, how would i instill values? in a world where 90% of what comes out of the media has a negative impact on kids, where reality shows is nothing but a show of shame, and access to porn is so easy,  fear gripped me. Knowing our christian background, would  he/she walk up to me one day and say am gay/lesbian (GOD FORBID) or i want to be single for JESUS? How would i react? How would i protect my child from social ills killing our kids?

The more i thought  about it the more i became more sober and more determined to do my part, live right not just for my child but for all kids born and yet unborn.

The book of Proverb is making more sense to me now that am a father-to be in weeks to come.Then i read Proverb 2 and i discovered that isn't this what my Heavenly Father has been trying to say to me while growing up. Sometimes i get it, other times i just turned deaf ears to it. "It says my son , if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments within you, making your ears attentive to skillful and godly wisdom, inclining and directing your heart and mind to understanding, if you cry out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek wisdom as for silver and search for for skillful and godly wisdom as for hidden treasures,then you will understand the reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of our omniscient God.

The good news is that i have a Heavenly Father to help me lead my child in the right way. To understand the pressures the world, media and peer pressure puts on these kids out there. God says cast your burden upon JESUS for he cares for us.

This is my desire Lord, i and the children you have given me, we shall serve you.

I dedicate this blog to JESUS. To all fathers and mothers. And kids trying to live their path in this dry and weary land.